IS MARRIAGE ALL ABOUT AGE?


Good afternoon my fellow Uptrenndian. I hope you are using this opportunity to gather more 1ups for the harvest moment? You had better do and keep learning too. 



Last night, I saw @Merit Ahama's post titled "The wedding cake". The story she wrote was very interesting and you can read with just a click here to take you there.



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It's a story about two ladies (both siblings) Just because the younger sister was getting married before her, she decided to ruin the day for her thereby implicating her. Should this be? 



Marriage is an institution ordained by God and it is only Him that has the date and day for everyone to be married. Your day to get settled down has already been written down in His record but a situation where you are in a haste to get married because of different reasons known to you either through an influence, or you are being forced to, will only make you regret your actions forever. Once you have entered into a marriage with the wrong mindset, you have stepped into an everlasting problem which will cost your life or whatever that may go with it.




In some part of the world, among cultures, it is a taboo for the youngest to get married before the eldest. So it is mandated that the younger one will have to wait for the eldest to go first, even if he or she has gotten a suitor already. I don't want to dwell much on that area because it is another topic on its own.




Marriage doesn't determine age, age doesnt determine marriage. The younger can go before the senior, it doesn't mean. As long as the younger has found his or her partner and they are ready to move in together. Also, you shouldn't get angry or get jealous because your younger sister or brother, is going before you. This is not something you should fight over or get annoyed at. 






There is a saying we used to say then and it is "They don't take latecomers in wedding" You can go first and I go last, what matters is we settle down at the end with the right partner and with the right mindset. 




My elder sister once told me that once I have seen the one I want to get married to and we are both ready, I should not wait for her to go first. Our time is different. We shouldn't be in an hurry to do what can later turn to problem for us. 






In as much as you haven't seen him or her yet, but your junior one is ready, be happy with him or her, instead of planning evil against them. Let that day be the happiest day for them. Be happy and rejoice with them. Your time is just different from him or her according to what God has written down for everyone. 



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Atanda Davido
04 Mar

Marriage is not about age, but in our society age is given so much attention, they made you look like a condemn fellow when you attain certain age and not married, some will even say you have spiritual husband

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Doc. Princess Busayo
04 Mar

So someone actually spammed your comment and post on NoiseCash 🤔

This is bad of such person. 

Once you have attained an age where they supposed to have been married and you are not, they start insulting and making jest of you which shouldn't be so. We all should understand time differs. We are born with different purpose and time. Forcing someone to do things not aligning to him or her is just same way of destroying such person. 

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Atanda Davido
04 Mar

How can someone spam my comment 🙄🙄 not fair

10

DeThouGhT ConCepT
04 Mar

Well most time been greedy and jealous can lead one into something that if words or actions one will end up with regrets.

And besides marriage is not about the age or seniority among siblings but should be a blessing to every home.

Let's learn to share the same Joy and happiness with our friends, and siblings when they are been married by you whether the elderly or the younger one we all should be happy for each other at all times.

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Doc. Princess Busayo
04 Mar

You are right. Greedy and Jealousy has entered into people's hearts that they want to copy what others are doing. They are only ruining their future because they will end up regretting it. 

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DeThouGhT ConCepT
04 Mar

Is a certainty my dear.

I always have known that regrets will always come at last.

😊😊

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Olaide Okeniyi
04 Mar

Traditionally and culturally junior should not marry before the senior what ever may be the case especially in israel and south-west of nigeria but now civilization has turn every thing around, nobody is waiting for others again. Everyone has free will to marry when one is ready. Let me tell you flesh can not cooperate when junior decided to marry before the senior but for those who believe in God all things are possible.

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Doc. Princess Busayo
05 Mar

In my own point of view, I don't see what is wrong in it. God created everyone and has the right time for us. When it is time for each individual, irrespective of your age, nothing should stop it. 

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Rosewell ogini
04 Mar

What you make happen to others God will make it happen to you no point being jealous and believe that God will make all things beautiful in his time

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Doc. Princess Busayo
04 Mar

God's time is the best and we should not run pass our destiny. Let's be patience and rejoice with others. 

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Abdul Qadir
04 Mar

marriage is not about age it's about time when right time came do it otherwise wait for things to happen the way u want I am really impressed what u sister told u I consider this as a advice 

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Doc. Princess Busayo
04 Mar

That is it. We must not go into marriage because we are too old or friend's influence, we will regret it later. Thank you for stopping by. 

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Abdul Qadir
07 Mar

it should happen when u want u can take such responsibility donot think what society member think it's about u what u want

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