Good morning good afternoon good evening and good night to some of you depending on where you are
I urgently need an advice for a friend of mine who has been struggling and searching for a spouse
He is in his early thirties and according to him, since he became an adult he has dated only 3 ladies and none of the relationships lasted more than six months
The first lady he dated, or should I say the first lady he thought he dated because they never talked about anything, they were just close friends more like best friends
They were friends for good eight years helping, advising each other where and when necessary. They really loved each other and shared a lot of things in common; they were so close that people began to think they were already married but they weren't
Their friendship came to an end the day my friend asked the lady to be his fate officially; she blatantly refused without giving any reason. This devastated Emma my friend because he was already planning his future with the lady in mind not knowing that the lady wasn't even thinking that far
What marvels him the most is that the lady told him that she really loved him and that he's the best man any lady would love to marry yet she turned him down for no reason
He met the second lady who admired and claimed to love him so much, they were really getting on well together until the lady travelled outside the state in search of greener pastures.
She suddenly changed, stopped calling and answering calls and got irritated by things that used to make her happy. They had misunderstandings and disagreements until Emma discovered that she was dating another guy.
When asked she said she loved Emma very much and that he's a nice guy but they can't be together and that was how they broke up
Then came the third lady, promising to stay. A very nice lady, beautiful, virtuous and all. They were really in love and my friend was happy at last, he thought he found everything he wanted. They professed love and promised heaven and earth to each other
A day never passed without them talking to each other for at least 2 hours on the phone and they see each other almost every weekend.
But Emma happened to be so occupied one day that he forgot to call the love of his life, so he expected her to call and know why. According to him, he wanted to know whether she truly loves and misses him by calling
It's almost two weeks now, she has not called to know why Emma, who never fails to call her several times everyday has not called her in two weeks, and they didn't have any issue before that
My friend is almost heart broken now because he sees this as a sign that he's neither loved nor missed. The whole thing started two days to his birthday, so she didn't even call on his birthday
Also note that, Emma's love is well and healthy according to the information he gathered from her siblings and friends, she simply decided not to call for reason (s) best known to her alone
What do you think of the whole issue? Should Emma break the silence and make the call or should he wait more?
Is it really a sign that the lady doesn't love him?
what would you advice Emma to do?
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