I fully believe in the idea of soul mates. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. With that said, I also believe that your soul mate can also be your biggest pain in the ass and a source of stress. With the good comes the bad, right?
Whoever said that relationships are always easy, he lied. Loving someone can be easy, but dealing with another human you have to share your life with isn’t always easy. Here are some things that you’re going to have to accept if you want a good relationship.
1. We all make mistakes
young couple lying on carpet at home
No one is perfect, and expecting your significant other to be an exception to this is ridiculous. We’re all people, so we’re all going to mess up at some points. Admit it, you’ve made huge mistakes in your relationships at some point or another. It’s bound to happen.
When you accept another person for who they are instead of everything they’re not, your life will get less stressful. Your boyfriend is not always going to be able to know what he did wrong.
Yes, there are times where our guys have severely messed up and you’re just like “How in the world could he not know this was bad?” You’ll be there. Many times. They’re not always the smartest. With some things, you shouldn’t forgive. Like cheating. Don’t forgive and forget. It’s not a mistake when you know what you’re doing and that it’s wrong.
2. You can’t change your significant other
I mean, you can change WHO you’re dating, but you cannot change the person you’re with. When you got into a relationship with this person, it’s obvious that you’re not always going to know everything about them. You don’t know their living habits and you don’t always know how they act when they’re with their friends.
Of course, this is all generalized, I don’t know any of your personal stories. But this can apply to many people.
You can’t force the person you’re dating to behave a certain way because you think they should. Unless your boyfriend is acting like a toddler at a restaurant to annoy you – shout out to my boyfriend. In that case, yes, please make them stop.
What I’m basically saying is that you need to accept your significant other for who they are. If you don’t like how they are as a human, then you need to think about whether or not you really want to be in this relationship.
You have to take the good with the bad and see how much you’re willing to put up with. If you’re not being treated well, then leave. But if your significant other just has some quirks that annoy you, then you just need to deal with them. Accept your person.
You’re trying to be in a relationship with someone – not be their mother or therapist. You can’t tell them what to do at all times and try to make them become someone they’re not.
3. Not everything is going to be easy
arguing couple in coffee shop
All couples go through something that tests their relationship. Whether it be a pesky ex, time, or distance. We are all tested to see if the relationship is not only strong enough but if they’re worth it to us. There are going to be fights and there are going to be hard times. If there aren’t, then, well, you’re either lying or not there yet.
Sharing your life with someone else is not always the easiest thing. When you really start to involve someone else in your life you really need to put in an effort. Communication is going to be the most important part of any relationship. Well, that and trust. If you don’t have trust, then I don’t know what you have.
Since you’re two different people, you’re not always going to agree on everything. It’s going to happen. You’re not always going to want the same food or go to the same places. Don’t let the little things get in the way of your happiness.
4. Accept apologies
Since we all make mistakes, we all have had to apologize. You know how frustrating it is when you sincerely apologize to someone and they refuse to accept it and let it go. You know what that feels like, so don’t make other people feel the same way either.
After a fight, there should be an apology on either one or both sides. It’s easier to forgive someone when they give you an opportunity to. Saying sorry is so important because it’s the beginning of letting something go.
5. Accept the love
beautiful young couple relaxing on couch
It can be a lot easier said than done to accept love, especially when you’ve never properly been loved before. Having a good and healthy relationship requires a lot of work, but it’s also just so rewarding. Sharing your life with someone you love can be one of the best things you could ever do.
When your significant other tells you they love you, believe it. Accept it for what it is, not what you wish it was. If you’re in a good relationship, you’ve realized that you can’t have crazy expectations for another person. It’s not the most realistic thing. It takes a lot for most people to tell someone else that they love them, especially if they’ve been hurt before. Don’t make them feel bad about it.
Accept that the person you’re with may not show love in the same ways that you do. Some people need to hear nice things and some people need good time spent together. We all need different things to feel loved. It’s not always easy, but it should always be worth it.
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